Dear Cynthia
I caught my husband of five years sniffing the panties of my 15 years niece. I don’t know if I should confront him or let the issue lie.
I also think he bought my niece a new blackberry phone because the day I insisted on making my niece tell me where she got the phone, he became too overprotective of her and we almost fought over the issue.
My niece recently lost her father, making my sister a widow who let go of her children to stay with her relatives, that is how my niece came to stay with me,
On the 26th of November 2015, I saw him at the backyard next to the heap of clothes my niece brought out to wash, he picked up a pant, my niece’s pant and sniffed it, I almost screamed where I was.
Also I keep noticing the look they exchange, very flirtatious.
Lastly my niece is acting like she is his wife, she dishes his food even before the children’s food, doesn’t knock before opening the door of our bedroom, and the most disturbing is, she asks my husband where he is going when he wants to go out as if she is his wife, my husband is 37 and this girl is 15, I suggested to my husband that we send her off to a boarding school, he rejected the idea and even got angry with me saying it will affect the girl psychologically, as if I want to dump her in a boarding house and run away. I want to confront my husband but I have no evidence, and for my niece I respect my eldest sister so much that I don’t know what to do, I feel like an outsider in my own home.
P.S. My husband is a banker and also a pastor at our church.
I sincerely need your advice.
Thank you.
Sad depressed housewife in Ikeja
I caught my husband of five years sniffing the panties of my 15 years niece. I don’t know if I should confront him or let the issue lie.
I also think he bought my niece a new blackberry phone because the day I insisted on making my niece tell me where she got the phone, he became too overprotective of her and we almost fought over the issue.
My niece recently lost her father, making my sister a widow who let go of her children to stay with her relatives, that is how my niece came to stay with me,
On the 26th of November 2015, I saw him at the backyard next to the heap of clothes my niece brought out to wash, he picked up a pant, my niece’s pant and sniffed it, I almost screamed where I was.
Also I keep noticing the look they exchange, very flirtatious.
Lastly my niece is acting like she is his wife, she dishes his food even before the children’s food, doesn’t knock before opening the door of our bedroom, and the most disturbing is, she asks my husband where he is going when he wants to go out as if she is his wife, my husband is 37 and this girl is 15, I suggested to my husband that we send her off to a boarding school, he rejected the idea and even got angry with me saying it will affect the girl psychologically, as if I want to dump her in a boarding house and run away. I want to confront my husband but I have no evidence, and for my niece I respect my eldest sister so much that I don’t know what to do, I feel like an outsider in my own home.
P.S. My husband is a banker and also a pastor at our church.
I sincerely need your advice.
Thank you.
Sad depressed housewife in Ikeja
1 Comments
Bring it up directly, unemotionally - you must be prepared for the possibility he leaves you for a year or two, and then wants you back.
ReplyDeleteBefore confronting, think it over, get used to it.
Then when you are ready, bring it up at the very moment it's in your head
Good luck, be real and kind xxx