Science Says You Don't Need to be in a Relationship to be Happy

We grow up in a culture that's very couple-oriented and so people who
don't find partners or don't find partners for a long time feel deviant. They
feel discriminated against. They're not invited to parties and so it can
cause a lot of unhappiness.
Not everyone really can be happy alone, but some of us can. Yet the
culture really pushes us toward coupledom. I have looked at the research
by Bella DePaulo, who's a researcher in this area, about how happy a lot of
single people are.
It turns out that there are many life-long singles. In fact, I believe half of
the adults in the United States today are single. There are many life-long
singles, especially women who are very happy, who are no less happy than
married or partnered people. They tend to have a lot of friends, a dozen or
more really deep friendships. Can those of you who are married and have
children, can you say the same for yourself? Do you have a dozen really
deep friendships, people with whom you keep in touch with on a very
regular basis?
Single people tend to be very close to their family members - nieces,
nephews, siblings, parents. Their friends are their own. When you're
married and with children a lot of your friends are not really chosen by
you. They might be your partner's friends or they might be your kid's
friends' parents, but when you're single you tend to choose your friends.
What I like to highlight is that there are a lot of single people who are
very happy. And so if you have not found a partner or if you're not sure if
you want to compromise or you want to live with someone else for the rest
of your life, there's a lot of hope for you out there from the available
science.